Tuesday, May 15, 2012

A change of attitude has brought me great joy!

I am so thankful I get to have Jack and Lucas as my kids. There have been times and will be more times I am sure when I look at something my children are doing and think "why did I have to get a difficult child?" or "Why is it my child that has to do that?" Are you horrified? Sorry, I wish I had never thought that but I would be lying if I said I didn't.

Recently I had an Ah Ha moment! You know one of those moments when a light bulb goes off in your head and for an instant everything seems clear and suddenly you know exactly the direction to head in. I suddenly realized a couple significant things. I realized that I needed to stop asking those questions previously mentioned and start asking God "What are you trying to teach me through my child?" Wow! How that changed my outlook. There is a reason why I was given the opportunity to be Jack's mother and to be Lucas' mother, I do not believe that it was by accident and I believe this life is training for the next life so what am I supposed to learn?

After my new outlook I knew that I needed to alter some priorities in my life and live through the lens of discovering what I need to learn. It has made an immense difference. I have been filled with greater patience, peace and joy. It is amazing how life improves when we alter our perspective and attitude toward it.


Wednesday, May 9, 2012

What does it mean to be a woman?

What does it mean? I have started to really think about what I think being a woman is. The fact is I have to be the one to decide, not the media, Hollywood or my friends. Me. I must decide and determine what it means to be a woman. I have noticed recently how negative I feel after being impressed by the media and Hollywood. The fact is the media and Hollywood advertise woman as objects. All they care about is how to be skinny, have a tight butt, sexy abs, large perky breasts and a flawless face. Really, what about being humble, honest, full of integrity, genuine, charitable, reliable...happy?

Now anyone that knows me knows I love to workout, it literally brings me joy. But I don't like being told and brainwashed by every billboard, magazine and pop up ad that I need to workout in order to be sexy and therefore happy.

The other day I accompanied my friend to the gym to attend the boot camp. I LOVED the workout, I was sweaty and full of endorphin's but I left with a feeling of hopelessness. There was a few woman who would fit the western worlds category of physical perfection; bodies were toned, tight, skinny and they had over sized breasts which they had bought from a plastic surgeon.

It irritated me. No matter how hard I worked out I could never look them unless I bought big breasts too. Why should I feel like I should look like that? Why would I want to look like that? Why do we entertain this perceived idea of what is beauty, of what it means to be a woman? Why is the first thing that crosses our mind when we see an old friend "have they put on weight?" Really!? How shallow and deranged are we?

Beauty is SO much more.

I believe and want to more fully feel that being a woman is so SO much more than physical. If I want to help raise a generation of people that appreciate women for their qualities and not their pant and bra size then I must change my behavior.

What does it mean to be a woman?


Tuesday, May 8, 2012


I had the privileged of watching my Friends youngest, miss little Myla. Myla is 6 month younger than Lucas but speaks like she is 6 months older than him. Check out my photography blog to watch their play date together.


Monday, May 7, 2012

My little batman

Jack went to work with Ben on "Bring your child to work day" so Lucas and I went on our own little adventure. He chose his outfit; batman PJ's with red and yellow wellington boots. He looked awesome. We went on a 3 mile walk to attempt to exhaust our dog (that didn't happen) and show Thomas the train a great adventure. Batman and Thomas the train were both enthralled. By the end I was sweaty and wearing a huge smile on my face!


Sunday, May 6, 2012

The Atonement

Are you familiar with this word; ATONEMENT? It is a word that I have grown up hearing and using but have not always had an understanding. I love this explanation that can be found in it entirety here:

Atonement. The word describes the setting “at one” of those who have been estranged, and denotes the reconciliation of man to God. Sin is the cause of the estrangement, and therefore the purpose of atonement is to correct or overcome the consequences of sin. From the time of Adam to the death of Jesus Christ, true believers were instructed to offer animal sacrifices to the Lord. These sacrifices were symbolic of the forthcoming death of Jesus Christ, and were done by faith in him (Moses 5:5–8).

Jesus Christ, as the Only Begotten Son of God and the only sinless person to live on this earth, was the only one capable of making an atonement for mankind. By his selection and foreordination in the Grand Council before the world was formed, his divine Sonship, his sinless life, the shedding of his blood in the garden of Gethsemane, his death on the cross and subsequent bodily resurrection from the grave, he made a perfect atonement for all mankind. All are covered unconditionally as pertaining to the fall of Adam. Hence, all shall rise from the dead with immortal bodies, because of Jesus’ atonement. “For as in Adam all die, even so in Christ shall all be made alive” (1 Cor. 15:22), and all little children are innocent at birth. The atonement is conditional, however, so far as each person’s individual sins are concerned, and touches every one to the degree that he has faith in Jesus Christ, repents of his sins, and obeys the gospel. The services of the Day of Atonement foreshadowed the atoning work of Christ (Lev. 423:26–32;Heb. 9). The scriptures point out that no law, ordinance, or sacrifice would be satisfactory if it were not for the atonement of Jesus Christ (Heb. 10:1–92 Ne. 9:5–24Mosiah 13:27–32).

I attempted to teach a lesson on the Atonement at church last week and I learn't a few important things. The Atonement is individual. Not only do I believe the Atonement was performed to remove our sins but to also console us through our challenges and trials. Too often we compare ourselves to others to determine if we are eligible for the Atonement to work in our lives. For example if our friend goes through a major health ailment then we dismiss our own pain because our challenge does not seem as extreme as theirs. What I learn't as I studied and prayed was the name or title of the trail or sin is insignificant to a certain extent. If we feel pain then the Atonement is there to be utilized. 

The Atonement is individual. Your experience with it will differ from mine and that is how it was designed. In my life as I have drawn upon the power of the Atonement I have felt great peace, a sense of renewal and overwhelming love. With the recent passing of Easter I keep finding myself pondering the greatest Sacrafice performed by Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ's life, Atonement and death are gifts to each of us. He lives! We must ALWAYS remember that he LIVES! 

He gave everything that we might find joy what will we give to him?


Saturday, May 5, 2012

What we do....

Play with balloons, play outside, ride bikes, play with friends and eat food. 

It is a great life!


Friday, May 4, 2012

Thoughts from Motherhood Unscripted

Catherine McCabe is Awesome! We were lucky enough to have her as our key note speaker. She said over and over that we should strive to create excellence in our own part of the world. I love that! Sometimes I think in order to make a difference I have to do something BIG and enormous but really I just need to focus on my part if the world, my little corner and by creating moments of excellence there I am making the world more beautiful.

Catherine also shared a true story of a swimmer who was a proficient coastal swimmer. She told us of a time the swimmer was doing a swim which was shorter than previous swims she had accomplished but this time she did not succeed. The problem was she couldn't see the shore line. She was on the last leg of the swim but her perception was altered because she couldn't see the finish. Unable to see her destination exhaustion defeated her and she never finished! How could she give up on an easier swim?

Sometimes in life it is far too easy to loose sight of the finish line. When we are unable to see our destination we become distracted by insignificant and temporary challenges. Often in motherhood I find myself overwhelmed by the constant conflict and challenges that I face with pre-schoolers but when I find time to focus and envision the destination of having raised kind, loving, creative, determined and honest children who I can spend the eternities with those temporary distractions are reduced and my goal becomes more attainable.

Catherine shared a quote which I don't remember fully but the gist was that when women are united in love, service and kindness they are the most powerful force in the world and likewise when they are united in jealousy and judgement they are the most destructive force. I think this is so true. Last month in the news there was some debate between comments Hilary Rosen said in regards to Anne Romney being a stay at home mother and all I could think was why do we have to divide ourselves? Really! If you are a mother who works or stays at home you know how hard being a mother is so why become divided? Embrace your situation and choose to support those who chose different to you. When we are united in love, service and kindness we are the most powerful source, let us not jeopardize that EVER! So choose to assume the best of each other, imagine how little stress you would have if you did that! Remember there is no room for comparison in sisterhood...

"I wish I treasured the doing more than the getting done!" How that rang true with me. Sometimes, the getting done is essential but often we can choose to actually be present in the moment and truly connect with those around us. Catherine reminded us that the joy of motherhood comes in moments, we must remember to live those moments so we have them to treasure later on in life.

Thank you so much Catherine for bringing your experience and knowledge to Motherhood Unscripted I am forever changed by the things you taught!


Thursday, May 3, 2012

Vernal: Horses and Temple

On our way home to Denver we stopped and stayed at Holly and Trevor's home. It was a delightful little stay with them. We rode horses, tractors, played with dogs, feed goats, went to the Dinosaur Museum, visited the Vernal Temple, bounced on a trampoline, slid down the slide and enjoyed each other:) Thank-you Shiners for having us!!!!

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